Feeling like Shit / Making People feel like shit
Serena Ge: You shouldn’t worry about making people feel like shit if you are being honest. On the other hand, if you overexagerate your accomplishments to make people feel like shit, when really you are scam, that is completely different. If you are honest to people, that is going to resonate with them, so they are going to be inspired and think like: this can be me!
You’re only flexing on them if they are very insecure about themselves. At SHAD, I engaged in subtle flexing, which is tolerable.
- Subtle flexing: sharing your accomplishments accidentally, not to brag but because it is necessary info for the story
Feeling like shit from hearing other people's successes
Comparison is the root of all evil. I still feel like sh*t for a split second when I hear about other people getting interviews / offers at these insane places. Because I’m like damn, I don’t have that.
But then I quickly remind myself that at the end of the day, my metric for success is not how many FAANG’s I’ve interned at.
I’d so much rather be working on my YouTube this summer. And when I realize that, I feel so much better.
Sharing Knowledge
There is a difference between sharing knowledge and showing people things that you find cool about yourself. Focus on sharing things that are useful to other people.
Else, you are just a narcissist.
For example, I resisted the urge to share my personal website to Sophie because there is no content valuable to her yet.
Talk with Lucy
Had this talk with Lucy Hu and I really don’t know what to think. At least, it’s not that I overexagerate my accomplishments.
I think the trick to be more Relatable by sharing my Struggle, like what Laurence is doing (see Failure)
- But no, that doesn’t get down to the root of it, at the end she needs to figure out her passion. I told her you need to look within yourself.
I think I would recommend that guy.
Personally feeling like shit
Sometimes, I personally feel like shit after seeing my peers getting better coops than myself.
But remember that you need to trust the process. You need to keep going at it, remember that the point is not to compare yourself to others. The only race you are running is one against yourself.