Stoicism
Expect nothing, appreciate everything.
When life hurts, stop Clinging to it.
Achieving Contentment and fortifying your mind against outside circumstances:
Outside circumstances can only hurt us if we let them. That is, if we cling onto them. Focus only on things you can control and let go of everything else. Then nothing outside of ourselves can harm us.
Whatever are our own actions are in our control.
The outside is not in our control, but the way we choose to react, to position ourselves, and to act with regards to the outside world is in our control.
We can’t control the world, but we can control our attitude towards it.
If we let our happiness depend on the things that aren’t up to us, fortune controls how we feel. Therefore, stop clinging to stuff that we don’t control if we want to develop a strong stable sense of well-being.
Stop clinging to stuff you can’t control.
- Stop clinging to objects, people, and power.
The past is the past.
Think of everything you get as borowed rather than owned/lost.
While he gives it to you to possess, take care of it; but don't view it as your own, just as travelers view a hotel.
Borrowing is a better representation of reality than owning. This is one of the solutions to fighting [[Entitlement]].Learn to be able to let go.
- Stop clinging to people’s opinions
- Stop clinging to outcomes and ideas
Emotions
Stoics are not being without emotion. It’s not the emotion itself that decides our mood but the position we take towards that emotion.
Emotions comes and goes like the waves of the ocean. If you think about it this way, you won’t always get overwhelmed.
So I was definitely struggling with this dilemma, because I was like I want to feel and enjoy the present moment. To feel the pain when I do feel it. Because if I don’t, life will become dull. But this is not what stoicism is about.